With Valentine’s Day coming up this Saturday, most of us have our loved ones on our minds. I thought it would be fun to look at the different ways people feel they are loved. Dr. Gary Chapman categorizes love into the following five categories in his book The Five Love Languages: words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch.
Before deciding what to do for your loved one for Valentine’s Day, click here to determine which love language he/she speaks so you can give the perfect gift.
I’ve briefly outlined each of the love languages below and gave Valentine’s Day ideas for each love language. For more detailed info, click here.
Words of affirmation
If this is your loved one’s love language, give him/her verbal compliments and words of encouragement often. Why not write them a heart-felt note for Valentine’s Day?
If this is your loved one’s love language, make time each day to have a quality conversation where he/she has your undivided attention. Find time to spend quality time together doing an activity you both enjoy, even if it is just watching a favorite tv show. For Valentine’s Day, plan a date that will allow you to spend some quality time together doing something you both enjoy.
For those who speak this love language, gifts are visual symbols that show them they are loved. The gifts don’t need to cost a lot of money, but will show that you care. Flowers, cards, chocolate, etc. would be a great Valentine’s Day gifts.
Acts of Service
If this is your loved one’s love language, simple household chores are a great way to show him/her your love. Find out what act of service he/she appreciates and do them as often as possible. For Valentine’s Day, why not offer to cook dinner and wash the dishes?
Hugging, holding hands, massages, etc. are great ways to show your love to those whose primary love language is physical touch. All of the previously stated would be a great ideas for Valentine’s Day.
What is your love language? I’d love to hear.